I’m often asked how performance coaching works and what to expect, so I asked one of my clients if I could share her story. I’ve changed the name for her privacy, but to be honest, this story reminds me of most of my clients! I hope you find it useful to get a better understanding of how performance coaching works and how it could benefit you:)
If I only ever managed to write one blog post, this would be it: the essential message that I desperately want every performer to hear...
How many New Year's resolutions have you made? And how many have you broken?
New Year’s resolutions get a really bad wrap. Too many people write a long list on January 1st and then by February most their resolutions have already fallen by the wayside. Of course the easy conclusion is not to make New Year’s resolutions at all, but this is throwing the baby out with the bathwater. It is not so much the intention to set New Year’s resolutions that is faulty, but the planning and execution of these desires.
As I mentioned in my last blog, setting goals is one thing, but getting started and sticking to them is another thing altogether. Just ask the supposed 92% of Americans who don't follow through on their New Year's resolutions!
We all know the feeling: you know what you should be doing, you realise how important it is to your goals, but you really can't be bothered to start... or to keep going! You find yourself doing anything but what you should be doing in a desperate attempt to avoid the task at hand.
Next time you find yourself checking Facebook instead of practicing, struggling to get your audition application in on time, falling into old self-destructive habits or simply sitting on the lounge, 'unable' to move, give one of these proven strategies a try:
All goals are not made equal: Why you can't have a successful career without setting the right goals.
I recently read The Antidote by Oliver Burkeman where he talks a lot about the negative effects of goal setting. He suggests that goal setting can lead to a destructive and tunnel-visioned lack of perspective, an inability to embrace the inevitable uncertainties of life and that these goals can become adversely attached to a person's identity, leaving them distraught and demoralised when their goals don't eventuate. He cites, among other evidence, the author of destructive goal pursuits who links obsession goal orientation to the tragic deaths that occurred on Mount Everest in 1996 and states that 41% of people in one survey said that achieving their goals failed to make them happier, and 18% said that achieving their goals had destroyed a close relationship. These aren't great statistics in favour of goal setting! So why am I suggesting that goal setting is essential to a successful performance career?!?